Wednesday, July 15, 2009

My Daughter...My Friend

I haven’t talked about my daughter yet, so please indulge a proud mama while I do so!

I had Jessica a little less than a month before I turned 20. I thought I was so mature for my age – everybody used to tell me so. But looking back, I wasn’t mature enough to have a child – I don’t know how some of these really young girls with babies do it. Of course, hindsight is 20/20 and there is so much I would do differently now, but her father and I did the best we could. Don’t get me wrong, overall, I think we did pretty good, but I have some things that play over and over in my mind that I do regret....things I would do differently today. But no use crying over past mistakes. Besides, despite any mistakes I may have made, Jessie has turned out to be quite the remarkable young woman. She is an incredible person and I couldn’t be more proud of her.

Jessie was a BIG baby – the biggest in the nursery – 10.8 lbs! They day after she was born, the nurse came in my room and found me holding her and crying. She asked me what was wrong and all I could say was, “She’s just so beautiful!” And she was – the most beautiful, gorgeous baby I’d ever seen!

Jessie is 25 years old now and she is even more beautiful. She is has grown into a confident and intelligent woman. I admire her independence and strength. She isn’t afraid to stand up for herself and the ones she loves. She is blessed to have so many good friends and people that care about her. She has a successful career and just bought her first home...at 25!

Jessie is a licensed practical nurse (LPN). But not just any LPN, she works in the labor & delivery OR helping with C-sections. My daughter gets to go to work and help bring babies into the world!!! OMG – how absolutely awesome is that? I am so proud of her and envious at the same time!

There was a time, when she was growing up that we used to butt heads a lot. Her father used to joke that we fought more like sisters than mother & daughter! Now, we couldn’t be closer! We now live less than 10 minutes from each other and are great friends. But even living so close, sometimes it might be 2-3 week between seeing each other, but we talk almost every day on the phone – sometimes 2 or 3 times in one day. And then on other days, there’s not much to say, but there is just the connection of saying hello and I love you.



**A note to Jessie’s future husband**

Love my daughter with all your heart. Tell her each and every day how grateful you are to have her in your life. Remember that actions speak louder than words – so be sure to show her how much you care and appreciate her. Choose your words carefully. Use your words to build her up – never to tear her down. Make your relationship your number one priority – she should always be first and foremost on your mind – everyone and everything else can wait. Listen to her when she’s upset – don’t think that you need to “fix” it for her, she’s capable of doing that herself – just listen and show her support and love. Hold her when she’s sad, take care of her when she’s sick, rejoice with her when she is happy. Take good care of my girl, she the most precious thing in my life and love her always.


**A note to my beautiful girl**

Jessie,

I love you with all of my heart. I know that you have an incredible future a head of you – I can see it....I can feel it. I have complete trust, confidence and faith in you to travel down whatever path you choose for your life. I am always here for you – no matter how near or far I may be. We are forever connected...you are forever my daughter and always my friend.

Love,
Mom

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